Intrapersonal Value Conflict Resolution Examples

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Besides being aware, you should use all your life coaching skills to initiate personal change or manage some of the common intrapersonal conflicts that happens in your everyday life.The different types of intrapersonal conflict can be broadly classified into [You (HEARTS) Others] mnemonic or equation

Intrapersonal Vs Interpersonal Conflict

Common intrapersonal conflicts include anger, guilt, social approval, and self-confidence while interpersonal conflict includes differences in empathizing and persuading others Emotions, Actions and Thoughts.

Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Conflicts
Examples List

First let's define HEARTS that stands for:-

1.     Health
2.     Environment
3.     Aspirations
4.     Relationships
5.     Things
6.     Society

1) Health: It could be your mental health or physical health


2) Environment: It could be conflicts related to the surrounding that you live. Examples includes epidemics, diseases, natural disasters such as floods, volcano and so on.

3) Aspirations: Conflicts related to aims and goals of your life. For example, you'd like to become a doctor but there are several hurdles.

4) Relationships: Conflicts related to interpersonal relationships that include your parents, spouse, children and grand children to name a few.

5) Things: Conflicts handling things and stuff around. for example, you don't know how to operate a washing machine, or you have problem fixing the water tap.

6) Society: You personal values is clashing with society values. For example, you'd like to live in a live-in relationship but your community or society may not allow you to do it has it breaches the religious or community values.

Now, conflicts happens because YOU are suffering from HEARTS or OTHERS who are related to you or around you is suffering from HEARTS.

So What?
All our life we either persuade (Convince) yourself or others or empathise with yourself or others to build a fascinating human relationship.  Intrapersonal and interpersonal skills will help us to achieve this intention. Now that you know the importance of intrapersonal and interpersonal intelligences and are aware of characteristics and personality traits of yourself and others, you have got another perspective on comprehending human life.

Now, conflicts happens because YOU are suffering from HEARTS or OTHERS who are related to you or around you is suffering from HEARTS.

Here is a list of intrapersonal conflicts in everyday life situations:

Here is a list of intrapersonal conflict situation that happen to us either personally and/or professionally in our everyday life. As a life coach, you can use these examples to create role-plays and resolve them.

• You are not Fit to Be a Manager

Mr.A, who reports to Mr.B is, offlate, spreading comments about his manager, Mr.B, saying, "Mr.B is not fit to be a manager, doesn't understand other's emotions or feelings, I hate him" and so on. As Mr.B, how would you manage this situation?

You are not fit to a manager

• I Couldn't Achieve my Passion

You, who is passionate about filing atleast one patent in life, say to yourself, "I'm demotivated because in spite of trying several ways, for almost a decade, to come up with innovative ideas, I couldn't file a single patent." How would you handle this situation to yourself?

Intrapersonal Conflict Examples

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More situations (Personal Situations that Demotivates Us (Intrapersonal Conflict)

Here is a list of Intrapersonal conflict situations in personal and professional life:
1.     I tried several innovative solutions and to file patents but in vain
2.     I have never been recognized for any rewards or recognition at workplace
3.     I have health problems such as headache, spinal pain, cancer, AIDS or so on
4.     I'm not able to initiate something in my personal and professional life
5.     I'm demotivated in life
6.     I'm trying to abstain from an habit such as stop drinking coffee, stop smoking or drinking, stop watching TV etc
7.     I've been failing in several aspects of life for more than 4-5 years now
8.     I've been performing a monotonous task for last several months and I'm bored
9.     At Work, I've been given a new complicated task and I'm unable to perform it.
10. A, B and C lives in an apartment, having good neighboring relationships, C vacates the house and A, being a tenant, brainwashes anybody who like to rent the house by saying the house is not lucky, you will not prosper if you rent this house. Owner doesn't visit the house as A, you know the house is been vacant because of B's behavior.
11. You've been given a task for which you're overqualified.
12. B is having conflict with A, B uses profuse language during conflict while A is calm and composed. Who do you inspire to be? A or B? Answer: Do not get inspired by neither of two because accepting every personality as they are in one of the intrapersonal skills.

Intrapersonal Conflict Resolution

Intrapersonal conflict is conflict that happens within us. You can resolve it using variety of ways. Here is a list of ways to resolve intrapersonal conflict using this 14S mnemonic device:

1.     Individuality: Respect individuality. accept yourself as you are. Be aware of your personal values.
2.     Internationalize: Generalize. Everybody--atleast many--are going through what you are going through. So, relax.
3.     Impersonalize: Do not take anything personally. If you have done a mistake. It is not only you who is responsible, it is partly because of the people around you, society you live in, situations that you are going through.
4.     Inquire: Ask yourself why.
5.     Invent rather than Inept: invent a solution rather than feeling sad about a situation through creative problem solving skills and creative decision making skills.
6.     Infinitesimal changes: Make small, rather very small changes, slowly, step by step to resolve your intrapersonal conflict. These small changes develops gradually into habits, manners and etiquette subconsciously.
7.     Incubate: Give time, time will heal both interpersonal and intrapersonal conflict.
8.     Imperfection: Live with imperfection. It is absolutely OK to be imperfect
9.     Is: Accept the present situation. If you're not happy now, you'll never be happy at anytime.
10. Incident to Epic: Look at situations in a long term perspective. Do not look at life at that, "Incident". Life can be divided into, in time sense, instance, event, episode, epic.
11. Inference: Do not come to conclusion immediately. Take time, what you see may not be true, wait, inquire, investigate before making any judgement. The below video is an excellent example that we come to conclusion before knowing the complete situation.




11. Infinite Motivation: Infinite means number, more number. if you're depressed about one issue, look at other side. You may fail in exams but you may have very good health. You may fail in relationships, but you may live in pollution free city.
12. Indefinite: Stay longer with the problem. You may succeed if you work with a problem for little longer than others. It requires patience, perseverance, and persistence.

13. Influences: Be aware of influences. Something that is right for others may not be right for you and both of you are right. Respect your thoughts as well as others.
14. Inner self talk: Use affirmative, positive self talk in your intrapersonal communication.

The step after self awareness is self regulation. When you have a strong desire of personal change, you will self regulate to achieve this personal change.

Intrapersonal Conflict Resolution Examples

Motivating and Demotivating Situations

Intrinsic motivation is one of the vital intrapersonal intelligence we all possess. Here is a list of situations either we get motivated or demotivated:-

1. My team demotivates me whenever I try to give solutions
2. I fought with one of my team member and now he doesn't talk to me and he avoids me
3. I hate people who get angry
4. At home, my first son gets 1st rank (high grades) while my second son gets low grades
5. At home, my dad is suffering from chronic renal failure and I'm upset about it and don't know how to help him recover from this illness
6. At work, I lead two teams and we're planning to go for a team outing but one team prefers location A while other prefer location B and I personally prefer location C, which both my team are not interested.
7. You bought a gift for your team from your department budget but your team didn't like the gift.
8. It requires 10 days to complete a task but your manager is expecting you to complete it in 5 days.
9. Your son wants a new toy which is very expensive and you can't afford it.
10. One of your close friend as been raped recently
11. You discovered that your spouse is lying to you
12. Two of your close friends are arguing with each other
13. One of your team member always comes late to office
14. In your city while you're driving, the co driver is honking and it is irritating you
15. Your spouse/manager used offensive language on you.
16. I have health problems-physical, mental, and I'm demotivated in life.
17. I'm not able to stop coffee, cigarette.
18. I get angry, feel guilty
19. I live in a cold country
20. I've been given a monotonous job, too many tasks, no rewards or recognition.
21. I'm trying to innovate something but in vain
22. I've been complicated tasks not relating to work
23. I hate angry people.
24. I look ugly, my voice is horrible.

1. Why Demotivation Happens

1.     Inability: Demotivation and Conflicts happen because you don't have the mental or physical ability to handle people, or tasks. It is absolutely normal. People's ability differs.

2.     Inferiority: You either feel inferior or superior to someone and this may cause conflicts

3.     Inferences: You judge people, you come to certain conclusions such as, he is a liar, he doesn't like me anymore, I'm ignored and so on.

4.     Inhibition (Fear): You are afraid of someone, something or some situation that has happened to you or that is going to happen in the future

5.     Illness (Unwell): You are ill, suffering from a disorder, disease or pain. So you express your pain through anger and frustration.

6.     Insensitivity: People emotional sensitivity differs widely. Something that is cool for you may not be cool for someone else.

7.     Inexperience: If you are handling new set of people, new set of tasks that you've never handled before may lead to conflict or demotivation.

8.     Importance: Peoples' personal values differ widely. Something that is very important to you may not be important to others. You may be conscious about being in good health, following strict diet but you cannot expect the same from your spouse because their values would differ from yours.

9.     Intensity: People responding to situation also differs. You may excited about being in love but your spouse may show less intensity compared to you.

10. Inconsiderate: If you are self and if you do not consider other's point of view may lead to interpersonal conflicts

Hygiene Motivation Factors

Here is a list of examples that when present may not motivate you but when absent would demotivate you:

• Have access to good hygiene toilet
• Have parents who are taking care of you
• Live in a city that is pollution free or that has excellent whether
• Atleast one part of the body organs are working fine
• Have a shelter
• Have clothes to protect yourself from cold/summer/winter
• Have access to clean drinking water.

Using several intrapersonal skills such as self motivation, intrapersonal communication, and with certain inborn self characteristics and personality traits, you can handle almost all kinds of intrapersonal conflicts in an interesting manner to achieve personal excellence. Once you identify your intrapersonal conflicts, you can either motivate yourself through intrinsic motivation to change your behavior or be contented about your attitude and behavior by accepting yourself as you are. You have to work both on your soft skills and behavioral skills to resolve your everyday intrapersonal conflicts.

This is just a common behavior of human beings. Overall I would say, “EMBRACE THE WAY YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW”. Today you Feel love, unsatisfied, annoyed and one day, suddenly, you feel great about everything around you and might also feel good about the education, career, financial and general life decisions perfect though nothing has changed. This kind of feeling inside you may have several reasons. I also, infact, I think, every human, go through these feelings and two important reasons, I believe, could be our food intake and our habits. Try changing your food habits, take a walk daily, spend more time with nature and you may see a change in the way you feel. 

 

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Intrapersonal Communication:List of Intrapersonal Communication Skills using B OPEN mnemonic: Belief, Optimistic, Pessimistic, Empathic and Neutral

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Intrapersonal Conflict: 

2.2 Intrapersonal Conflict: Examples of intrapersonal Conflict using HEARTS Mnemonic: Health, Environment, Aspirations, Relationship, Things, Society